The Best and Worst Bits of Life With a Newborn

A few weeks ago, a friend asked me what the best and worst bits of life with a baby are. It took me several hours to reply to her text message (because I was feeding and then entertaining Matilda) and it has taken me several weeks to write the resulting blog post (because I was feeding and then entertaining Matilda) but here goes!

Baby Rooftops peeking over yellow hand knitted cardigan

Let's get the not-so-great bits out of the way first, shall we?

Incidentally, these are the best and the worst bits for me. I know, for example, that a lot of people would have "The crying! Oh my god, the crying!" at the top of this list but - so far - Matilda is not a very weepy baby; I can't really complain about her occasional grump. On the other hand, some people manage to cook fancy meals whilst looking after a newborn, whereas I can't seem to make myself a sandwich.

So. Here are the things which I do find challenging:

The Worst Bits of Life With a Newborn

Dirty Nappies

In particular: dirty nappies at 3am. Self explanatory, right?

The Mad Housework Dash

Although Matilda sleeps well at night, through the day she will only really nap in my arms. As a result, the mountains of laundry and the forest of dirty baby bottles get dealt with in the evening or at the weekend and I always feel a tiny bit stressed about potentially falling behind - I'm totally(-ish) fine with the flat being a little grottier than usual but the things which allow me to keep Matilda alive and healthy have to get done somehow.

The Steep Learning Curve

I'm used to feeling like a competent, capable person but suddenly I'm having to learn how to do everything. I don't just mean the baby-specific things like reading Matilda's body language, putting the ideal number of sheets on her bed and buying the correct size of nappies - I mean such simple, everyday things as catching a bus (with a pram!) or nipping to the corner shop (with a pram!) or going to a cafe (with a pram!). It's odd, not really knowing what I'm doing half the time.

The Exhaustion

I don't mean the sleep deprivation (that's tough but I'm pretty used to poor quality sleep); I mean twelve hours a day of caring for and attempting to entertain a baby. Things get a bit repetitive, waving the same toys around on the same playmat in the same flat, day after day. It's getting easier now Matilda and I are better able to get out and about (I'm stronger; she's calmer) but I still hit a wall about four o'clock most days and feel very, very ready for Steve to get home from work.

Sharing a Bedroom

Partly, this is because babies can be restless and noisy - the best description I saw on a parenting forum was, "It's like sharing a bedroom with a very noisy badger". Spot on. It's taken me a while to start sleeping through Matilda's non-urgent snuffling. There's also the question of what it is and is not appropriate for two grown ups to get up to with a baby sleeping two feet away...

Realising That I Have Nothing Else to Talk About

Not that any of my friends expect me to talk about anything else right now, but I still find myself worrying that I'm boring them and apologising for my single track mind.

But it's not all tricky stuff. In a lot of ways, the past nine weeks have been incredible.


The Best Bits of Life With a Newborn


The Slow Pace

I spend so much of my day sitting on the sofa, not-so-tiny baby curled against my chest. Sometimes I read. Sometimes I surf the net. Sometimes I just watch her sleep. Having to slow down and let my normal routine slide is rather lovely.

Her Ferocious Determination

Nine weeks ago, Matilda didn't exist - not really. That's incredible to me. And it's amazing how much she has learned since then. When she puts her mind to something, she tries and she tries and she tries and she shouts and she squeals and she thrashes all her limbs around madly until she finally succeeds.

Her Curiosity

For the first six weeks or so, Matilda found pretty much anything outside the flat overwhelming - if we took her anywhere new, she would bury her face into one of us and cling on tight. Suddenly, she's fascinated by the world. We take her out in her carrier and instead of falling asleep she gazes around her. I love watching her learn.

The Other Parent

My heart could burst watching Steve and Matilda interact. This has all been new to Steve, too, and it's incredible watching him find his confidence as a father; he has gone from not having a clue what to say to her to swooshing her around the room, singing nonsense songs and wittering on about dinosaurs. I'm so full of love for my tiny family.

Baby Clothes

So adorable.

Children's Books

As above.

The Smiles

There is nothing in the world - nothing at all - as beautiful as Matilda's smile. Especially when it's aimed right at me.


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