I'm 30 weeks pregnant today - roughly three quarters of the way through! I can't believe how fast the time is passing. I also can't believe that, from next Tuesday, the remaining weeks will be counted in single figures - the last fifteen months have been all about getting to a successful birth and it seems incredible that that's about to change; I'm quite comfortable with this stage of our lives now and a little stunned that it's almost time to shift into the next one.
Anyway, this seemed like as good a time as any to round up all the questions people keep asking me and to bung all the answers here.
Do you have any hunches what you're having?
Nope, still no idea! People tell me it's a boy because the bump is low and narrow but, honestly, I think that's got more to do with me being tall than with the baby's sex! Something to consider, though: my grandfather has fifteen great-grandchildren and they're all boys - am I more likely to continue or to break the streak?
Can you feel it kicking?
Yes, loads! Sometimes it kicks non-stop for three days; sometimes I won't feel it for hours. Sometimes the kicks feel deep and tiny; sometimes my whole belly lurches around. Even when it's uncomfortable, it's really quite incredible (and always reassuring). We can occasionally see lumps of baby moving around under the skin, too, which is simultaneously disturbing in an I've-watched-sci-fi-films-and-I-know-something's-about-to-explode-out-of-me kind of way and absolutely, utterly, overwhelmingly amazing.
How are you feeling now?
Obviously my hips are an ongoing issue - there are times when the pain's pretty low level and there are times when it's so bad I can hardly move. I'm trying to be all upbeat about it because, you know, that's what I do, but I'm not going to lie: it's tough and frustrating and there have been several crying fits. Other than that I'm feeling pretty good, though! Seriously! I get occasional heartburn and my legs are a little jumpy in the evenings but, by and large, I seem to be escaping the worst of the third trimester indignities. That may well be down to the enforced rest so I guess it has its good sides...?!
Have you got everything you need?
We have all the basics (along with a couple of things we'll probably find we didn't need) although it's weird trying to buy baby clothes when we don't know what weight/height the baby will be and when every different shop seems to have its own version of sizing (yep, that inconsistency starts at birth).
What are your thoughts on nappies?
We know we don't want to be sending mountains of synthetic nappies to landfill so we won't be using the standard brands. We'll be starting off with "eco" disposables which are still not entirely environmentally ethical but are a step in the right direction. Once we're more confident about this whole parenting thing, we'll be giving serious thought to cloth nappies which, again, have good and bad points but which we think are worth looking into.
Have you written your birth plan?
Not yet. Our "Preparation for Birth and Labour" antenatal classes are at the end of the month so I'm holding off thinking too much about it until then. I like the idea of a water birth as apparently it's easier on the hips and less of a shock for the baby but so few of my friends ended up having the birth they expected, I'm trying not going to get too attached to any one idea.
Have you chosen a name yet?
Um... no... we have a couple of girl names we both like but we haven't made a firm decision yet; we're finding boy names much harder, largely because our friends (and my cousins) have used so many of the good ones! Suggestions in the comments section, please!
And how is Steve?
Hi! I'm a 30-something stay-at-home feminist mother-of-one. I live in Aberdeen, Scotland with my toddler, boyfriend and two black cats.